Most of us wear a mask in the outside world. Nearly all of us are fighting some inner conflict or a battle of some sort. Yes there are people who claim they are pretty happy with their life; a life that looks on the surface to be enviable; but just how happy are they really?
So I wondered why some people appear to be happy all the time, never taking off their mask yet others (me included) choose to be quite vocal and honest about what we are thinking and feeling and certainly not professing to be happy all of the time.
Why is it that people are so frightened of being a little vulnerable sometimes? “I’m sad, I’m hurt, I’m lonely, I’m socially anxious, I’m not coping. ”
All things that people feel every day but too scared to tell anyone.
Oscar Wilde said
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
But how many of us are being ourselves?
You may feel self-conscious, about opening up to others but maybe you just need to be around the right people to open up to?
We all fear being judged and ridiculed. But personally I would rather be judged and laughed at than pretend everything is amazing imprisoned with my own thoughts.
Honesty and transparency are scary I get that. it actually takes real courage and strength to tell people your life isn’t actually amazing right now, and it’s not a weakness either as some people will lead you to believe.
Neither is it weak keeping all your thoughts and feelings to yourself, but it sure must be excruciatingly lonely sometimes and exhausting keeping up an act.
Of course people have secrets and so they should. Some things should just simply be kept to yourself. But trusting people more is a great start – finding people who would probably be at very least flattered you could open up to them. It could just be one person, that’s a start.
Do you want to live your whole life trying to meet others expectations of you? Or do you want to look back at your life and think I was always true to myself and others.
“be what you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”