Everyday I’m learning to be more forgiving and understanding.
Everyone is the way they are for a reason. It doesn’t excuse people’s bad behaviour and it doesn’t make it right but it’s important to always attempt to understand why people act the way they do.
Insecurities, jealousy and bullying are all very negative, but it all boils down to feeling secure in yourself and feeling loved. We need to be loved and shown love to feel secure and confident. We need praise to feel proud of ourselves and be great in life. Even if you disagree and don’t need these things you would have had then growing up which is the most important time of all.
That girl who’s insecure because she thinks she isn’t as pretty as her friend. The jealous boyfriend who thinks his girlfriend is always cheating, and the bully who puts people down and belittles them. They are all people who were probably let down in life and are taking their anger and frustrations on innocent people. Sometimes the ones who are the hardest to love need it the most.
But it’s not just about the victims becoming more understanding and think about things more deeply, it’s up to the insecure people too. Only we can fix ourselves, and you have to love yourself no matter what.
It’s a vicious circle. You behave in a vile way and people dislike you, and you hate yourself even more. Cue frustration, anger, more vile behaviour. It’s a disastrous repetitive cycle.
As someone who can be insecure myself, it’s something I work on everyday. Sometimes you just have to be nice to everybody and be kind even when you don’t like them or when you feel the green eyed monster comes in to play. Most people feel jealous or threatened by people occasionally.
Don’t mind what others do. Get busy being awesome and being the leading man or lady in your own show. X